What I have been thinking of lately is my relationship with people.
All the friends you would want to hang out with everyday is not the same as undergrad. As an undergrad, you can see the people you want to see and hang out with them nearly 24/7. But grad school, many people are at different stages of their lives. There are some people who already have a family with children, people who work 24/7, or they are some people who may not be younger than you are but that gap is obvious. It shows that each person that I know here are all at different stages of their lives.
Jumping to grad school right after graduation is definitely a big jump. Even so, hanging out with those I want to and catching with few good friends from undergrad is better than keeping in touch with the mass majority of “friends” who cared on a shallow level. But my relationships with classmates from history classes, my nihongo kazoku, and very close friends has shaped me into the person I am today.
Even with friends here, you can feel the difference. Lately, what I have been feeling is that other people are changing as I feel like I am changing but still being me. Can’t do anything about it but to keep moving on and learning from the experiences.
It’s an interesting experience rather, for most days of each week to wake up, go to work, go to class, come back home, work on homework/reading, relax, and go to sleep. It is the same cycle over again the next day. I know comparing school to working most days of the week is not even an option but I think some people don’t realize that social life does not blossom the same as it did back in undergrad. Grad students also experience a sense of loneliness. So when there is an opportunity to hang out with friends at happy hour or even just for one day or a little bit, I really learn to appreciate it here.
I do not want to make this a negative post, but I just wanted to share the reality check that I, myself, and other people who works or goes to school post-undergraduate are experiencing now or already experienced.